To handle the questions of who is the “right girlfriend/boyfriend,” the “right husband/wife”, we must first seek to have the right relationship with God. This comes from studying His Word, prayer, continued confession of sin and repentance from sin. We have to cling to the unchanging promises of Christ, seeking first His kingdom and His righteousness. Find good Christian counsel from our mature Christian friends who would make sure that our emotions are not leading us into hasty irrational decisions. Then, as we grow in our Christian walk, our decisions will be based on wisdom from God rather than fleeting emotions.
Consider the following
In one sense, God has a person for us because He has ordained everything that will come to pass. But for anyone to seek out a special confirmation that this person is the one for them would be a waste of time. Instead, we should consider the following:
- Faith. Is he or she a Christian? We know that Scripture warns Christians to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14) (which we can apply to marriage).
- Growth. Is this person growing in their faith or are they stagnant? Consider their spiritual devotion when making your decision. Are they reading the Word of God? How is their prayer life? Do they frequently attend worship services? Do you see evidence of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23)?
- Trust. Do you trust this person? How is their character? Look at their relationships with others. Are they well regarded by everyone they encounter? Do they respect others (1 Peter 2:17)?
- Love. Do you like this person? Do you enjoy spending time with him or her? Can you be friends, not just lovers?
- Responsability. Will he be a good father for your children? Will she be a good mother for your children?
- Support. Ask your parents and your friends – those who know you best – whether or not they think your potential girlfriend/boyfriend is right for you? Though your friends could certainly be wrong, they may be able to provide some insight into the situation that you may not be able to see.
God leads us trough wisdom
If all these questions are answered positively, you can be confident that this person would be a good husband or wife for you and you may expect God’s blessing if you marry him or her. You do not need a special confirmation, for normally God leads us through Christian wisdom, not through supernatural signs.
May God bless you and help you find peace in your relationships.
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